Coping with the holidays at the most difficult time

Winter is here, and the holiday season is fast approaching. For most people, it’s a time of year that we look forward to, that brings us warmth and joy at the thought of its arrival. But when a loved one is facing the end of their life the holidays can be especially hard, not only for the one dying, but for all of their friends and family.

It can be incredibly difficult to balance the sadness one feels at the impending loss of loved ones while the world around you is celebrating.

But there’s also something truly beautiful that happens around Christmas, that I’ve been fortunate enough to witness on many occasions. The holidays, more often than not, bring together friends and family members from all over, some of whom might have been apart for years—it’s the most common time of year for reunions. And so Christmas, in fact, can provide someone who is dying with an opportunity they might never have otherwise.

Yes, it can be difficult coming to terms with the fact that this might be someone’s last Christmas, but it’s also such an important time to celebrate the memories that have been created in all those holidays past.

Remember too, that staff at hospices and palliative care centers are always available to help. Never hesitate to reach out to them; they are no strangers to the pressures associated with this time of year. Take the time to read this piece written by the Edmonton Zone Palliative Care Program, and as it says, “be good to yourself.”